How long does it take to find the perfect partner? Studies show that, on average, women will kiss 15 men, have two relationships lasting a year or longer and have her heart broken twice before finding Mr. Right.
Of course, if you’ve been out of the dating game for a while, it can feel as though “The One” is lifetimes away. Whether you’re out of practice or still getting over a failed relationship, keep reading. Here are three simple tips that can help you get back in the game with confidence.
1. Take Some Time to Think About What You’re Looking For
Don’t think about dating again as a way to get back in the game; instead, think of it as a chance to start over. With each new date comes a chance to rethink what you’re looking for in a potential partner. Are you constantly going for the same kind of guy, only to get disappointed when certain personality traits come out? Then it’s time to start looking for a different type of man.
The same goes for you. If you find yourself only going on first dates and never a second, even though you feel as though things went well, ask yourself whether you would date you. Maybe you’re too eager to jump into something permanent and, in turn, are being too clingy. Or, are you making the dreaded first date mistake of bringing up your exes? Take some time to reflect on yourself and on what you’re looking for in a partner.
2. Give Yourself a Boost of Sexy Confidence
If it’s been a minute since you’ve been on a date, it’s totally normal to feel nervous, as your flirting game may be rusty. It’s probably been a while since you made small talk with someone new. If you’ve recently gotten out of a long, messy relationship, you might also be questioning everything you say and do, down to the outfit you choose.
However, giving yourself a boost of confidence can go a long way. If you don’t want to put everything on display at a nice restaurant, opt for something sexy underneath instead. A matching set or some comfortable lingerie tucked under your dress or favorite skinny jeans can help you feel sexy in your own skin, not to mention ensure you’re ready to make sparks fly if things go well!
3. Don’t Be Afraid to Try Something New
Maybe you haven’t dated seriously since college, where meeting new guys was as easy as crossing the hallway of your dorm or going to a party on the weekends. Or perhaps your go-to has always been the bar scene. But if you’re returning to the dating world after a break, it means something didn’t go quite right. That’s why, this time around, it’s time to try something new.
Don’t be afraid to break out of your comfort zone. Online dating sometimes gets a bad rep, but it’s proven popular, not to mention successful, for many people. As many as 40 percent of American adults are now dating online. That means you’ll have plenty of new potential dates if you join in.
Getting Back in the Game with Confidence
Dating should be fun. Unfortunately, when it’s been a long time since you’ve put yourself out there, that first date can feel daunting and stressful. Don’t be like that. Instead, use these tips to boost your self-confidence, rethink your preferences, and try something new. Whether you’re looking for something serious or just want to have some fun, you’ll be luckier in love and feel good in your own skin at the same time.