The time has come where you feel like taking that next step and moving in with your partner. It is an extremely fun and exciting time, but there is a lot of stress that will head your way and that no one prepares you for. Cohabitating can put a strain on any couple, no matter how well they get on and communicate, but if you prepare yourselves, the whole experience won’t be as difficult as it could be. There is no specific way to do things, however, if you don’t have the experience or know what to expect, then taking some advice on board can’t do any harm.
Sorting out your things and moving your stuff into your new place is a very physical task and requires time and energy. Being organized and working together can help improve the experience and strengthen your bond with your partner. Packing together is a great way to learn more about one another.
Make sure that you work together from the start of the moving process by making all choices, like if you will do everything yourselves or hire movers, and what you’re going to pack everything in, as a pair so that you’re both confident about the success of the move and feel included.
If you decide to move yourselves, using teamwork when loading the truck and moving your things in is also a great bonding exercise, as long as you work together and organize yourselves effectively.
Obviously, you don’t want to come across as a control freak or a parent by establishing some house rules, but confronting your likes and dislikes at the start and encouraging your partner to do the same is much better than allowing a potentially small problem turn into a big deal. A quick chat is all you need to reduce the chances of you resenting each other. You both own this home and share it, so you need to make sure you are happy with each other’s rules.
When you move in with a partner, you need to understand how vital it is to communicate with each other. Feelings are the main part of a relationship, and these will need to be kicked up a notch when you are sharing the same space. If you start to fight about stupid and pointless things all of the time, then you are both going to become miserable. If you are getting annoyed about something, then tell your partner, and the same goes for appreciating something. Things don’t always have to be negative.
You may have a specific idea about how you want your home to look, but don’t forget that your partner may have their own idea too. You need to sit down and have a discussion, and look at the things you both like so that you can gain a better understanding of your partner’s style. If they are similar, then things will be easy. If they aren’t, then don’t panic; you may learn to love each other’s style in time. Compromising or giving each other their own space to design can be a great way to overcome this issue.
As you may be able to tell, communication is the best way to make things successful with your partner when you move in together. It can be difficult, but you shouldn’t let the stresses ruin this amazing step of your relationship. Remember that when you do things right, it is a lot harder for things to go wrong.